Embracing Transitions

Embracing Transitions

Is it simply menopause, I ponder? Nah... what’s happening inside me isn't something to be mitigated or diagnosed. It's meant to be embraced. My instincts tell me to surrender and submerge myself in the experience, so I’ve swung open the door and welcomed this unusual...

Lessons From My Clients

Lessons From My Clients

In my first ever dominatrix session, which I detail in my book Fetish Girl, I learned a few valuable lessons about how to gracefully guide another into their fantasies. I didn’t come to these lessons overnight—it took years to hone my understanding. If you...

Letting Go of the Legacy of Shame

Letting Go of the Legacy of Shame

I am a mother and grandmother, and in a few short hours, I will have a memoir hit the streets that details my journey through the worlds of stripping, sex work, and erotic wrestling. So very soon, those personal moments I have carried with me will become public. I’m...

Tips for Mindful Sex with Rumi

Tips for Mindful Sex with Rumi

Enjoy this sweet and simple ceremony to connect to the Sacred within yourself and your partner. Our task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. Create Space: Set aside at least a couple of...

A Guide for the Sexually Curious Young Woman

A Guide for the Sexually Curious Young Woman

Times are changing. We are evolving. We don’t have to bumble our way through the first 10 or 20 years of relationship and wait until we are divorced and in a therapist’s office before we start to figure this shit out. It’s the 21st Century and there are new models for...

Can I Get A Hug?

Can I Get A Hug?

Yesterday after a twenty minute pout, complete with exaggerated sighs and long faces, my boyfriend finally asked, "is something wrong?" Now, I, teacher of sacred touch, had to draw from every workshop I've ever attended to muster the courage to squeak out the words,...

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