Lessons From My Clients

Lessons From My Clients

Set your life on fire and seek those who will fan your flames.—Rumi In my first ever dominatrix session, which I detail in my book Fetish Girl, I learned valuable lessons on how to gracefully guide another into their fantasies. I didn’t come to these lessons...

A Goddess Guide to Self Care

A Goddess Guide to Self Care

Something I’ve noticed is that when I forget my feminine practices, I am more easily pulled off my center. It’s essential to stay embodied and heart-connected to yourself—especially during times of stress and transition. Embrace it; breathe, and surrender to what is....

A Guide for the Sexually Curious Young Woman

A Guide for the Sexually Curious Young Woman

Times are changing. We are evolving. We don’t have to bumble our way through the first 10 or 20 years of relationship and wait until we are divorced and in a therapist’s office before we start to figure this shit out. It’s the 21st Century and there are new models for...

Cock Worship or Blowjob…What’s the Difference?

Cock Worship or Blowjob…What’s the Difference?

A blowjob is something you do for him — cock worship is something you do for YOU…and him, of course. Yes, it’s a gift and an offering but you do it because you love it and you need it. You do it because there's nothing you want more than to be showered in his...

Embracing Transitions

Embracing Transitions

Is it simply menopause, I ponder? Nah... what’s happening inside me isn't something to be mitigated or diagnosed. It's meant to be embraced. My instincts tell me to surrender and submerge myself in the experience, so I’ve swung open the door and welcomed this unusual...

Letting Go of the Legacy of Shame

Letting Go of the Legacy of Shame

I am a mother and grandmother, and in a few short hours, I will have a memoir hit the streets that details my journey through the worlds of stripping, sex work, and erotic wrestling. So very soon, those personal moments I have carried with me will become public. I’m...

Tips for Mindful Sex with Rumi

Tips for Mindful Sex with Rumi

Rumi would make a great sex coach.  Really! He's a star in the modern holistic community and rightly so.  Mystic and Sufi poet of Persian literature, Rumi describes love as a flame which, when it blazes up, burns away everything except the Everlasting Beloved. ...

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