Epic lovers are not born, they are made.

 “The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.”

—David  Deida

The Sexually Superior Man

You’ve gone to school, succeeded in your career… You’ve got the home, the kids, the great friends.

But there’s one area of your life that’s just okay – You’re not having truly powerful sex. Gut instinct tells you something is missing, that you are disconnected from your erotic strengths.

But you’re honestly not sure what women want, and often don’t act for fear of crossing the line. Due our culture’s inadequate sex ed, you were never taught the potency of creating and maintaining sexual polarity, or the styles of seduction to masterfully conquer your lover.

The angles, positions and levels of touch (that will drive your lady mad) are absent from your epic lover toolbox. 

Maybe you can give her a great clitoral orgasm but you don’t really understand what’s under the hood. You haven’t experienced the orgasmic potential that’s available to her – or even yourself.

So let me ask you a question…

You strive for excellence in every area of life. So why are you settling for mediocre sex? 

The average time it takes a man to orgasm is two to three minutes, hardly time to warm the sheets. Vaginal sex typically lasts three to seven minutes.

As it stands, women instigate more than 80 percent of divorces.

The men who come to me are the men who recognize this gap and are ready to discover their epic, erotic self. They choose the path of the Sexually Superior Lover.

My name is Bella LaVey and I’m a holistic sex coach with over 25 years of experience in the field of sexuality.

I have a deep love and compassion for men who strive to be the best at everything they do, yet were never given the tools and guidance to be masterful in the bedroom.


Sound like you? You’re in the right place.


Here’s what’s possible…

  • Your partner is begging for more and you have more sex in a week than you have had in months, 

  • She squeals when you walk in the door and you both feel years younger.

  • Her eyes light up and she sparkles with the same vivacious as when you first met.

  • You feel a confidence and virility as a man that you never knew you were missing.

  • Sex has become an adventure, a dance, and communion as you finally meet your erotic selves.

  • You feel more deeply in love with her than ever before, it’s like a second honeymoon phase.

Consider this your invitation to become a truly empowered and confident lover. 

You’ve got the equipment. I’ve got the owner’s manual

I only work with men who are ready to do the work and will commit themselves to the program. 

This experience will change your life.

Your sexuality isn’t just for the bedroom. When you harness your sexual energy, it ripples into all domains of your life – giving you the potential to uplevel everything.

You Will:

  • Have more fun with your partner.

  • Understand the styles of seduction – and discover your woman’s unique erotic code. 

  • Feel confident in expressing your kinks and secret desires.

I work with a limited number of men in a 3-6 month container

Learn what it takes to become a sexually superior lover.

Every interaction with you was a stepping stone toward having the life that I couldn’t have even imagined in the past (which I’m joyfully living now). You’re beyond an inspiration.

Bella, I want to tell you how grateful I am for the practice and advice on the seduction styles in our last session. You have elevated our marriage and our sex life has been amazing!


Working with a coach is engaging in an alchemical process of creation. Together we unwind shame and limiting beliefs, and weave in the stories and desires that empower you to live a life of greatness.

© 2023 Copyright Bella LaVey.