Doctors are quick to push the pill as a panacea for everything from heavy periods to acne, and women disconnected from their bodies (and out of tune with nature) are quick to comply. But is there another way? Yes. It may take a little bit of time and research but I promise the benefits of being empowered and informed are profound. And the journey toward becoming connected and conscious will overflow into all domains of your life.

Because it takes up to 10 years for a girl’s cycle to stabilize, young girls who are put on hormonal birth control at the onset of their menses never have a chance for their cycles to develop. I believe parents are doing teenagers a grave disservice by passing on the Sheeple torch of their own ignorance. By handing her body over to the allopathic medical system (who are the puppets of Big Pharma), we are essentially throwing her hormones into turmoil with a class 1 carcinogen. All before she’s had time to develop, thus furthering her chance for dire health and infertility issues in the future.

How will this young woman ever become an empowered sexual being if she’s taught that she has no control over her health and reproduction? Sexual empowerment needs to start with proper sex education that teaches women the magic and intelligence of their own bodies. They need to know that it’s natural and necessary for a woman to have an intimate connection with her cycle. If we taught women to love and honor their bodies while also ceasing rampant male genital mutilation, maybe we’d have less of the gender dissonance that seems to be the trend today.

When I was a young woman, I attempted the rhythm method and failed. It was in the 80s, years before the internet. I didn’t have Google, YouTube or access to the passel of powerhouses available today who are teaching fertility awareness, sans the religious propaganda. It’s almost 2020 and no one with access to a computer or library needs to go uneducated today. All the information necessary is widely accessible and non-hormonal birth control is practically free.

“The Fertility Awareness Method is NOT the Rhythm Method. The Rhythm Method is nothing more than an obsolete, ineffective guessing game that uses past cycles to predict future fertility. The Fertility Awareness Method, on the other hand, is a scientifically-validated, effective, and natural method that involves charting three primary fertility signs on a daily basis, so that a woman’s fertility can be accurately determined.


The three primary fertility signs are waking temperature, cervical fluid, and cervical position. The method is based upon the functioning of estrogen, progesterone, luteinizing hormone, and the corpus luteum. Unlike the Rhythm Method, whose contraceptive effectiveness cannot be taken seriously, the Fertility Awareness Method, when used properly, is 98% effective.”


—Toni Weschler

There are so many Fertility-based Awareness Methods (FBAMs) to consider it will make your head spin. The menu includes the Symptothermal Method (STM), the Creighton Model, the Billings Method (if you want some Hail Mary’s tossed in), the Marquette Method, the Justisse Method, and the BBT method. I’m not a bleeder and haven’t had any personal experience with any of the methods, but if I had a do-over I’d start with Toni Weschler. I suggest that you do your research to find a FBAM that works for you.

Please remember that FBAM is a competent method of birth control and not a barrier against STDs. This method is only recommended for fluid-bonded partners, who have tested negative for STDs and are monogamous.

It’s estimated that 98% of sexually active women have used birth control at some point in their lives. Just imagine the generation of empowered goddesses we’d be and birth if fertility awareness was the method of choice. Women in tune with their bodies are women in tune with their lives.



Bella LaVey 

Fetish Girl: A memoir of Sex, Domination and Motherhood

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